Ari

Attending Sarah Lawrence College I was surrounded by confident beautiful trans people including many transmasculine nonbinary people. Watching people move through the world with joy and acceptance helped me see that as a possibility for myself.

I recall reading a blog post on a nonbinary person's Tumblr about how if you are constantly thinking about whether or not you are trans or questioning your gender you are in fact likely to be trans. The blog made the assertion that cis people just don't think about it that much! That helped me validate the feelings I always had internally and start to plan how I could more forcefully affirm my identity outwardly. Having access to a transmasculine counselor through my insurance's gender health center and long-term therapy provided by nonbinary therapist have helped me feel supported for my physical and internal journeys. Having an incredibly supportive spouse who has been with me since before I transitioned and who always identified as pansexual and is attracted to me for all of my gender also made living my truth feel possible.